A girl, heartbroken and hysterical, initially shouts at the boy, questioning why and how he could do this to her. She pleads, "I've been so good to you, why do you want to break up?" Later, she sobs and begs, "Tell me what I did wrong, I'll change it, please don't break up with me." The boy stands beside her, looking at her coldly and impatiently, replying, "Being with you is too tiring, you always ask me about everything, you have no opinions of your own." He continues, "And stop saying you're doing it for my good, that's the most annoying thing to hear." In a relationship, two people are like being at either end of a seesaw, and the most enduring relationship is one where there's a dynamic balance of ups and downs. If one side constantly caters and pleases, emptying themselves to add weight to the other side, they will become lighter and lighter, left hanging at one end of the seesaw, unable to touch the ground, relying solely on the other. This relationship loses its balance, and what you lose is the choice and independence, making you easily manipulated. Once the other party is unwilling, with a turn, you'll be thrown down heavily, bruised and battered. There's a saying: If someone likes you or not, you can feel it. If you can't feel it, then it's not. How can someone by the fire feel cold? Don't waste time on those who don't like you; the more humble and pleasing you are, the less others will take you seriously. People won't easily harm a wolf but can step on an ant without hesitation because the disparity in strength is too great. Sometimes, no matter how enthusiastic, kind, or self-sacrificing you are, it won't change their attitude towards you because in their eyes, you are inferior and not worthy of equal treatment. If that's the case, why continue to compromise and cater? It's better to allocate time to oneself, focusing on self-improvement, whether in appearance, ability, eloquence, or the ability to earn money, all of which are adding weight to oneself. As your weight gradually increases, the seesaw will return to a dynamic balance. When your horizons expand to a certain extent, you might even look down upon the person on the other side of the seesaw and have enough ability and confidence to call off the game. Bi Shumin said: Our lives do not exist for the sake of pleasing others; we are free beings. We do not need to please anyone to joyfully carry the earth and face the blue sky. Once you acknowledge this, the shackles are broken, and you can breathe freely. With sufficient control and no longer living under others' shadows, you can be happier and freer. Whether others value you or not becomes insignificant. We cannot control others nor need to; listen to constructive criticism from others, and smile away slander and ill intentions, grasping one's rhythm and enhancing one's sense of value. A relationship maintained by pleasing and catering cannot last long, and a relationship that can be broken by arguments is not worth cherishing. The essence of human interaction is value exchange; what you need to do is continuously build up your value, grow upwards, and be compatible downwards. Hold the power to define yourself in your own hands, without compromise, catering, or pleasing, and be yourself with confidence. If you are a flower, you will naturally attract butterflies; if you are a tree, birds will naturally perch; if you are the sea, rivers will naturally flow towards you.keywords:breakup, relationship, balance, independence, self-improvement